5 Steps for Overcoming Fear

February 21, 2012 | posted in: Spirituality | by


Have you ever wondered how you were going to get through the day, resolve a conflict, pay the bills, get a job, or simply break through the fear that holds you back? Sometimes, life becomes such a struggle that it appears the easier path is to quit rather than push through and conquer the fear of “IT” whatever “IT” is! Although quitting is an option, the consequences of not moving through the fear rob us of the learning experience so valuable to out soul’s growth. Perhaps it is time to change our perception of fear and view it as a positive force, a motivating energy that encourages us to be more than we thought we could be.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do”.

What are you dealing with today that brings up your fear? Perhaps the fear of being alone if you move away from a relationship; the fear of making a mistake if you move into a relationship; the fear of loss of security if you change careers; the fear of retaliation if you tell the truth.

Use these 5 steps to overcome any fear that is holding you back from the life you want to live.

  1. Make a DECISION to face the fear and do it anyway, this thing you think you cannot do.
  2. Write down all that you think will happen if you do this thing that you fear. Write out the worst case scenario and read it carefully.
  3. Write out a description of the way you think life will be if you DON’T face this fear. Are you willing to live with this alternative?
  4. Now take a clean sheet of paper and title it “STEPPING OUTSIDE OF THE BOX”. Remember, life is not black or white; rather it is many shades of grey. Look for other options for the same goal and write them down. List the pro’s and con’s of each option as well as a preliminary game plan.
  5. Create a first step. Baby steps are easiest to accomplish. Take one step at a time and then create another next step. This way you won’t become too overwhelmed with too difficult a step. Evaluate all that you’ve written and see if there is a light at the end of the previously dark tunnel.

Facing our fears and moving forward does indeed build courage, high self-esteem, an inner strength and trust so that the next fear we encounter will be much easier to move through. As long as we are growing, we are stepping outside of our comfort zones, plunging into the unknown, which does bring up some level of anxiety. However, we know we are vitally alive when the dynamics of our lifestyle create periods of positive stress, that high level activity of creative expression. Working through our fears opens life to creativity, joy and peace that we all deserve and want.

Happy Growing!


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